So one of our readers, Jessica, brought up the topic of a midlife crisis in her comment on the “Wear the Eye Patch” post, and I want to hear more from everyone on what you think about it. Jessica said that maybe being who you really are (and wearing your symbolic eye patch) is really what a midlife crisis is all about, “…when we finally decide that maturity is lame, life is short, and we buy the flashy red convertible and let what’s left of our hair blow in the wind and don’t bother to cover our crows feet with sunglasses. Maybe a midlife crisis is a good thing and we should all start now.”
But I’m wondering, do you think that if someone is going to have a “midlife crisis” that it has to be a “crisis”? Or if we played our cards right, could it just be a midlife awakening? Like I mentioned in my reply to Jessica’s comment, I wonder if the crisis part comes when you become so stuck in living out of alignment with your true self (in your 30s or 40s?) that when you finally say (in your 40s or 50s?), “I’ve had it!” the proverbial pendulum swings so far to the other side that it does become a crisis.
I would call it a crisis when a mom decides to leave her family because she’s just so dang tired of it all, and I know that this is a sad truth for some families.
I don’t know about you, but I want to be like Sally O’Malley (did you ever see that Molly Shannon skit on Saturday Night Live?) when I’m 50. She totally owns it. You gotta watch this.
I was talking with my aunt today (an eternal optimist, by the way), and she said that she loved turning 40, and that she’s excited to be turning 50 next year. She said that when she turned 40, she felt like she had finally arrived, and that she knew that she didn’t care about whatever anyone else thought anymore. I love that she just embraced 40 instead of fighting it. For me, the mere thought of turning 40 makes my insides hurt a little and makes my stomach flutter in a something-wicked-this-way-comes kind of way.
So can this process of awakening to our soul’s purpose (or destiny, or I’ve heard it called our “essence” — basically just who we really are deep down inside underneath all of our masks) actually help us avoid a midlife crisis? Can we be Sally-O’Malley-confident and just be who we are without having to include the word “crisis” in our mid-life story?
What do you think?